Beware the 4 year old boy.

Muffin is four years old, and has entered that stage I had been warned about.
("he's only a year old, but every time I change his diaper, his hand goes right down!" "just wait until he's four, giggle giggle")
First it was just undressing after using the potty, and running out yelling, "I'm Naked Penis Man!!"
Then I get a call from his day care. Apparently he's trying his hardest to discover what the girls have. And he's also letting everyone see what he has. He's also grabbed a girl's bottom while she was changing.
I talked to him about it.
"You need to stop trying to see your friend's private parts." I told him.
"Why?" he answered.
"Muffin, when you are a grown up, and you and {little girlfriend} get married, then you can see her naked all you want. Trust me, it'll be a lot more interesting then anyway."
"Mama," he says, quite seriously, "I think it's really interesting now."

I know at this age, it's more curiosity than anything, but what can I do? He doesn't have a sister so he's really never seen girl parts before. And it's not like I can go and ask his friend's moms if they'd let him have a look. I had a younger brother, we took baths together when I was 4 and 5, and he was 1 and 2. So I'd seen what boys had, it wasn't that interesting to me, because I saw it all the time.
So I found a book. It's called "Amazing you! Getting smart about your private parts" .
It has illustrations and explanations of boy parts and girl parts, and I think it is very age appropriate.
We bought it last night, and read it several times. I told him it is HIS book, he can look at it any time he wants to, and ask us any questions he has about it, and we will read it to him any time.

He of course, wanted to bring it to school.
"I want to show my friends about the vagina!" I tried to explain it is his friends' parents' job to talk to them about private parts.

I also told him the four rules about private parts:
1. You do not touch your private parts around other people.
2. You do not show your private parts to anyone.
3. You do not touch your friend's private parts.
4. You do not let anyone touch your private parts.

We are working very hard on these points with him, but he's such a shame-free child. Unfortunately, he could run into the wrong kind of adult who would take advantage of this. I don't want that. I want him to be proud of his body, and take pleasure in it, but in an appropriate manner. I want him to RESPECT his body, and his friends' bodies.
One of his teachers hadn't worked with this age group before, and the poor girl was shocked...she didn't know how to approach me. She talked to the director about it, and the director called me. Incidentally, one of the little girls whose pants he'd tried to pull down, was the director's daughter. Yeah. But she has a son a little older, so she knew what four year old boys are like. I knew, I'd baby sat my share, and they were the ones who'd try to open the door when you were peeing, or look under the stalls in the dressing rooms or bathrooms, or look up your skirt, or lift their mommy's skirts up.
As I put it to a friend, you tell them they can't do it, they wonder what the fuss is. You tell them they can't have candy, and they know that'sgreat, so perhaps we're just keeping something awesome secret.
Can't tell him it will be awesome someday, but right now, it's just not.

So now we will keep reading this book, and keep talking about the "Private Parts Rules", and hope it sinks in before he gets labeled the "preschool pervert".

More nesting

Well, I've decided to give cloth diapers a go from as close to the start as I can without losing my mind, which means I am not ordering newborn sized covers but I did find a great deal on ProRap Classic Diaper Covers for about $4.50 each, and bought the small size, which fits 9-14 pounds. Seeing as Muffin was 9 1/2 pounds at birth, and this one appears to be 1 pound already at 21 weeks (most are 10 oz., I believe) I'm betting on jumbo size here. However, Muffin was only 18 lbs at one year, so though he started out large, he slimmed down.
I just ordered some infant size Prefold Chinese Bleached 100% cotton DSQ for about $9.00/dozen. These are good for the first few weeks, and I can use them for doublers when baby gets bigger.
I'm going to also have some vinyl plastic pants, pins and such as these are very cheap and easy to find. I'll also have a package of newborn disposables on hand for those nights when I need it.

It's a....headache.

It appears we are expecting a healthy boy.
2/3 of women who have migraines will find they get better in pregnancy. Guess which group I fall into. And mine have these wonderful auras that strike me blind for several hours--kind of like staring at a light for a while, but it just gets worse.
I'm SO glad I talked to my OB on Friday about my migraine meds (maxalt) because she said it is ok to take--just not more than 3 doses in 24 hours. So Saturday I took two before I could see again, and the pain never came! Thank god for modern medicine.

Except.

Sunday night.

The aura returns.
I am out of my prescription, have one waiting to be filled, but it is 10:30 at night. Perhaps if I just go to sleep in my nice, dark, quiet, cool room, it will go away.

Doesn't matter if your eyes are closed. The aura is still there. It gets bigger and bigger and finally fades. Then comes the pain. By now, I've just fucked it all up--the maxalt might help, might not--need to take it before the pain comes--so when it gets to the point I cannot ignore it at all, I get up an take a Vicodin (also ok with OB as long as it is occasional) and I am able to sleep for a few hours.

My temples feel like they have been reattached with roofing nails today, but I am at work.
Problem is, I can take these meds on an "occasional" basis--if I need them every day, I can't do that. And the meds aren't doing their job if I am getting the same things the next day.

I don't know what to think... I'm going to wait this one out (it must pass eventually) and see if I get another in a week--weekly migraines would definitely mean talking to the doctor. Daily means I don't stop calling till I GET the doctor on phone.

Anyway. Thinking I should go home...which means boss will not be happy with me. She's never taken a sick day herself. But perhaps home and rest are what is needed.